How u do anything is how u do everything

How u do anything is how u do everything

I have a habit of starting things with genuine interest and quietly drifting away before they are done. New ideas pull me in. New projects feel alive. New games feel full of promise. And then, somewhere in the middle, my attention loosens and I start looking elsewhere.

For a long time, I did not think of this as a problem. I thought I was just curious. That I liked exploring more than finishing. But when I started paying closer attention, a pattern began to emerge. Not something I consciously chose, but something that quietly shaped how I move through things.

When I was a kid, I played without urgency. I wandered. I did side quests that did not matter. I followed whatever felt interesting at the moment. I did not care about the final boss or saving the world. I was inside the world, not racing through it.

Now I play very differently.

I unconsciously set lofty ambitions for myself. Finish everything. Do it properly. Complete the game before moving on. And somewhere along the way, the game turns into a task. Something to get through rather than something to enjoy.

Recently, while playing Hollow Knight, I noticed how far I had drifted from that kid version of myself. I was playing with an invisible urgency. Trying to get through it so I could move on to Silksong. The atmosphere was beautiful. The music was quiet and heavy. The world was asking me to slow down. But I was not listening. I was already thinking about what came next.

And then it hit me. If this is how I play games, this is probably how I live my life too.

How u do anything is how u do everything.

I think about my life in terms of quest markers. Create generational wealth. Build something meaningful. Start a family. Find a deeper purpose. These goals glow in the distance, pulling me forward. But even this way of thinking skips the most important part. The process.

I am so focused on where I want to end up that I forget to live inside what I am doing right now.

I noticed this even in how I approach romantic connections. Instead of staying in the moment, instead of enjoying the awkwardness and fun and uncertainty, my mind jumps ahead. To seriousness. To structure. To the future. Almost to the end. As if intimacy is only meaningful once it becomes permanent. As if play is a distraction rather than the point.

I also realized something else that surprised me. If I suddenly became a millionaire, 80% of the things I imagine I would finally allow myself to do are things I can already do now. Learn. Create. Explore ideas. Build slowly. Think deeply. The difference is not resources. It is mindset.

Lately, even with my startup, I have been stuck in outcome mode. Marketing. Promotion. Traction. Growth. I worry so much about whether it will work that I forget why I started in the first place. I stop being curious. I stop enjoying the act of building. It becomes another version of me rushing through a game instead of playing it.

I realized that my younger self understood this instinctively. He did not need permission to enjoy the process. He did not need outcomes to justify interest. He trusted curiosity without asking where it would lead. He did not care to save the world.

I do not see a clean solution. It is more of a quiet noticing. A recognition of a pattern that repeats across games, work, relationships, and life itself.

How u do anything is how u do everything.